Meet the Elliotts

People sometimes ask Natasha Elliott how she manages to do it all: care for her ailing husband and 10-year-old son while pursuing a graduate degree in nursing.  Natasha, 27, said those who don’t know Mike, her husband of six years, don’t understand their marriage and the ups and downs of battling life-threatening illness.

“This is our normal and I wouldn’t know what it would be like to be with someone who didn’t go to the doctor every week,” Natasha said.

Mike and Natasha Elliott

Mike and Natasha Elliott

Normalcy for Mike Elliott includes living day-to-day with symptoms that can limit his mobility and restrict his appetite.  The 30-year-old husband who once trained to become a SWAT officer now weighs 120 lbs after mouth blisters prevented him from eating.  He nearly went blind from cataracts.  His physical appearance attracts stares due to a condition that causes skin rashes.

Mike was diagnosed with leukemia in January 2004.  He underwent treatment and progressed toward remission, the reduction of cancer cells.

Natasha was working on her first nursing degree and interning in the oncology department of the hospital that was treating Mike.  Although she never had her future husband as a patient, Natasha heard gossip from other nurses about the cute former baseball player in cancer treatment.  Mike and Natasha met one day in the hospital hallway in May, began dating the next month, and were engaged by August.  Mike had started chemotherapy, and his cancer was in remission.

The wedding was planned for March 2005, but Mike’s cancer came back in February.  Two nights before the wedding, fever struck and Mike returned to the hospital, where doctors decided he would stay for the weekend.  The rehearsal dinner was cancelled and the ceremony seemed to be in jeopardy as Mike rested in his hospital bed.

“I was very emotional and had said I didn’t want to get married in a hospital,” Natasha said.  But at 4 a.m., Natasha changed her mind: “I said I’ll marry you anywhere, even if it has to be in your hospital room.”

Elliott Family

Elliott Family

Members of the church where the marriage would have happened decorated the small chapel in the hospital for the ceremony.  Mike and Natasha married on March 12 in front of 25 people – the hospital chapel could only fit so few – and Mike immediately returned to his hospital bed as a husband and father of Natasha’s son Isaiah, who was 3 years old at the time.

“You have these people who have fairytale lives with pictures and everything,” Mike said.  “We don’t have that, we have our faith that’s getting us through the whole thing.  It wasn’t the dream wedding you think of, but it happened that way.”

Three months later, Mike underwent a bone marrow transplant necessary for his leukemia treatment.  Doctors shortly thereafter diagnosed Mike with graft-versus-host-disease (GVHD), a condition experienced by some patients who undergo bone marrow transplants in which transplanted cells attack the recipient’s immune system.  Mike said doctors informed him that he would likely have GVHD for the rest of his life, although medical experts are still trying to learn more about the disease.

The GVHD diagnosis forced doctors to place Mike in what he calls a “solitary confinement” for three months.  He was restricted to living at the hospital and prevented from seeing Isaiah, who could give his dad germs and make him even more sick.

“It was really hard from a relationship standpoint, especially because we had just got married,” Mike said.  “If someone sneezed on you, you had a chance to die.”

Mike’s GVHD migrated from his liver to his mouth, where it caused blisters, malnutrition, and weight loss.  After receiving treatment near the Elliotts’ hometown of Lakeland, Fla., Mike spent a year flying occasionally to Houston to visit a GVHD specialist at MD Cancer Center.  Mike received special contact lenses from the Boston Foundation for Sight after he nearly went blind from cataracts.

“The last six years have been a roller coaster because at times he got way better and was mowing the yard and going to work and then all of a sudden he would go down and couldn’t do anything and would be depressed or anemic or couldn’t eat anything and would lose a lot of weight,” Natasha said.

Mike’s condition seemed to worsen this winter.  He spent two weeks in a hospital near Christmas and was approaching liver failure.

Elliotts with Mickey

Elliotts with Mickey

The Elliotts attended the Inheritance of Hope Legacy Retreat Jan. 7-10 at Disney World, just down the road from their Lakeland home.  They met families and volunteers from 13 different states, enjoyed a vacation in the park, and learned from others’ experiences.

“This retreat with these people was one of those answers to a prayer you never prayed,” Mike said.  “It happened at the worst time in our marriage and in our lives and it happened at the perfect time.”

Natasha said she most enjoyed meeting other families close to her age who were dealing with terminal illnesses.  Although she interacted with many cancer patients as an oncology nurse, it was different to meet peers in similar situations.

“To meet other women there whose husbands are sick and they’re having to take over their husbands’ roles like housework, working, and taking care of children was such an encouragement for me,” Natasha said.

Isaiah and Corbin

Isaiah and Corbin

The Elliotts’ son Isaiah also participated in the retreat and bonded with Corbin Hedges, a first-time volunteer and college student from Tullahoma, Tenn.

“I remember walking around the Disney playground with huge grass.  Isaiah was so excited to go there, his face just lit up,” Hedges said.  “You’re able to see so much of a positive impact on a family’s life.”

Hedges and the Elliotts stayed in touch after the retreat and reunited in Lakeland when Hedges was on his spring break from school.

“He literally was like a dad that I couldn’t be to my son,” Mike said of Hedges.  “It was just unbelievable how they try to find ways to serve you, the only way I can describe it is we got treated like royalty.”

The relationships created at the Legacy Retreat have offered the Elliotts new perspectives on their situation.  Isaiah met other kids whose parents are living with life-threatening illnesses and still asks how they are doing.  Mike gained a new outlook on his disease from the testimonials he heard at the retreat.

“Now I see that even if I do live for another five years, I’m going to cherish every minute of it,” he said.  “I can appreciate all of the things I never could before like taking a shower, being able to eat, having saliva in your mouth, so many things most people take for granted.”

Natasha’s role as Mike’s caregiver has been affected by her career as a nurse.  Although her training helped Natasha administer at home care, she also understands the severity of Mike’s multiple diagnoses.

Yet, as Natasha nears completion of her graduate nursing degree, she also understands that there are other young couples like hers living with life-threatening illnesses.  Natasha used to discourage Mike from using a wheelchair because it made him look different, but after meeting peers who use wheelchairs, Natasha said, “it looked to me like this is ok.”

“My faith is pretty strong that I’ve come to the point that God will give me the strength to go through whatever I need to go through,” Natasha said.  “I’m done praying for God to heal him, I’m not worried about the future, I’m trying to take more advantage of the time I have with him right now.”

Natasha said she plans to run in an upcoming marathon to benefit Inheritance of Hope.  Isaiah wants to know if he is old enough to be an Inheritance of Hope volunteer.  Mike is expected to begin kidney dialysis soon.

“We would not know any different,” Natasha said.  “That shows what our normal has become.”

This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Lisa Thorpe

    What a fantastic story. Makes you really appriciate all the ups and downs of life. Dont ever ask God why? Ask why not…
    My prayers go out to the Elliott Family. Luv you.

  2. Jessica Elliott Crecco

    What a wonderful story! Thanks for sharing it and all that Legacies of Hope has done for Mike, Natasha and Isaiah. We saw them shortly after their Disney trip and as Mike said “it was the prayer they never prayed” answered.

  3. Megan Rimmer

    This is an awesome article! Mike, Natasha, and Isaiah could not stop talking about how wonderful their trip to Disney was and how it was just what they needed! Thank you for allowing them the opportunity to enjoy this special time!

  4. Leesa Thorpe

    Mike, Natasha, Isaiah: I am so very appreciative of you all to have you as family members. You have shown us to treasure life to its fullest. God will see you through this, he chooses the pathways in life which we must follow. I love you all very much and will always be there for you.

  5. Jacquelin Wester

    The Elliott’s are amazing. Natasha is the strongest person I have ever met in my entire life. With all she goes through in life she is still concerned about others all the time. God put her and Mike together for a reason and He will see that his plan is carried out, whatever that may be.

  6. Michelle Ashby

    What an amazing example this family has set. Live life to the fullest and trust God’s plan for you.

  7. Cindy Goldsmith and families

    There is nothing like the love God has for us. But the love Natasha and Mike have for each other and for Isaiah gives a glimse of many types of love.

    He will see you through. He will see all of His children through.

    If you are reading this, I hope and pray that you know Him. He will be your strength and comfort. It is a promise…His promise.

    I love you Mike, Natasha and Isaiah and am so thankful you three have each other. Remember all of your friends are here for you to lean on.

  8. Joan Duffy

    To you Michael may God forever hold you in his arms, to you Natasha be assured you are one of God’s angels, and you were a blessing in Michael’s life….you were a gift from God, all our thoughts and prayers are with you and all the Elliot family…..May God bless and comfort you through these times. Love all the Duffy Family

  9. beckymcd

    Your story has helped me to understand other families are like ours. Mark Earle and wife Terri who is my daughter and their daughter Abby were sched for Feb retreat. Mark has GVHD also and is having a lot of infections. He has been in the hospital since before Christmas and had to cancel their retreat. I am so glad you and other families have had the chance to get with other families on retreat. Praying for you and all other families going thru life this way.

  10. Natasha

    please e-mail me personally at i would love to talk to you.

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