The Inheritance of Hope Podcast

You don’t feel like yourself anymore. Maybe it’s a diagnosis. Maybe caregiving feels overwhelming. Maybe your life just looks nothing like it used to.

Kim Virrueta, a licensed marriage and family therapist, helps people find their way back to who they are today, even when it feels far from who they were before everything changed. In this episode, she offers a practical framework for finding your new identity along with a simple exercise you can do at home.

Here’s What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

– Why grieving who you used to be is a real, valid form of grief, even if no one died
– The TEAR model, a four-step grief framework originally developed for palliative and hospice care, adapted for any loss
– Why holding pain inside shows up in your body, and what to do instead
– A simple at-home exercise to identify your priorities and values today, using just a notebook or your phone
– How one small daily choice, even five minutes, can move you toward feeling like yourself again

If you feel like you don’t know who you are anymore, this conversation can help you find who you are today.

Timestamps:
00:00 How Five Minutes Can Change Your Day
01:20 How Do I Find My Identity After a Diagnosis or Loss?
04:09 Why Grieving Who You Used to Be Is Real Grief
06:50 What Is the TEAR Model of Grief?
07:31 What Happens When You Hold In Grief?
11:06 How Does Culture Shape the Way We Grieve?
11:49 A Simple At-Home Exercise to Find Who You Are Today
16:16 How Do I Start Feeling Like Myself Again?

To access the helpful resources from this conversation, see the PDFs below.

Check out our Other Helpful Resources page for more support:
https://inheritanceofhope.org/other-helpful-organizations/

You can learn more about Kim here:
https://therapywithkimv.com/about-me-christian-cancer-counseling-support