Carrey, a wife and mom with ALS, originally shared this post here on August 4th.
On this day 15 years ago, Eric and I vowed to unite as one. We joined at the altar in a small, white, Little-House-on-the-Prairie-type chapel. We stood side by side, no bridesmaids or groomsmen, no fancy flowers, no fancy musicians. My dad did all the readings, Eric's dad officiated the ceremony, and we filled the little chapel with our family and closest friends. Having Eric by my side made it a real dream wedding. As we stood at the altar and shared our vows, it would take almost 15 years to fully understand the commitment he made to me.
Carrey and Eric in 2001
"I will love you forever, and under all circumstances. I will stand by your side always. I will have faith in you and encourage you in everything you do. I will be here to listen to you, to laugh with you, and to hold you. I will strive every day to make our relationship stronger. I will love you, honor you, respect you, encourage you, and cherish you, in health and in sickness, through sorrow and success, for all the days in my life."
What that meant was:
I will enjoy all of our friends and family with you, socializing, meeting new people, tailgating, and going to our favorite restaurant with you. I will join you as your doubles partner in tennis and snow ski down the mountain with you. I will support you leaving the work force to raise our children as you support me as my career developed. I will be the behind-the-scenes guy for all of your party planning adventures. I will support you with all your volunteer work. I will give you free reign to decorate our home just the way you want it. I will travel around the United States for all of your doctors' appointments. I will remodel our home to make it accessible for you. I will bathe you, wash your hair, and shave your legs. I will scratch your head and eyebrows every time they itch.
Repeat volunteer Nate Most first heard of Inheritance of Hope at a small tractor dealership in his hometown of Brady, Nebraska. A rancher, Nate was simply doing business and was surprised when a stranger who had come in for oil approached him and told about how his own family had been blessed by an IoH Legacy Retreat®. The story resonated with Nate since his wife of 25 years, Amy, had been diagnosed with a brain tumor.
Haylee Bunner turned in her Inheritance of Hope volunteer application as soon as she could--the very day she turned 18. She had been waiting for the chance to serve families like hers for quite some time. Haylee, her brother Cameron, and their parents Matthew and Kim attended an Orlando Legacy Retreat® in May 2012. Kim passed away a little over a year later.
“I knew that volunteering was something my mom would have done had she been healed.“ Haylee describes Kim as someone who loved to help other people. “To know that her death gave me the ability to understand much of what these families are going through would have given her peace.”
Friday, March 13, 2015, Jerusalem Half Marathon: Runners climb paths long traveled by pilgrims. They gaze upon landscapes that have been treasured and disputed for ages. The paths are now roads and the scenes have been added to, but the place is timeless—as are the struggles and dreams of its people. Men and women of many nations pass through the Jaffa Gate under the watchtower of David and exit the Old City through the Zion Gate. They run along the once-cursed Valley of Gehenna, past a U.N. peace-keeping site, and close to the tense area of East Jerusalem. And, the marathoners run by ancient sites, holy sites, places that are sacred. With each step, one runner offers a silent prayer. With each new view, she senses the courage that new life will one day be ushered in. With each breath, she hopes for this nation to find peace with God.
Sunday, March 15, 2015, New York City Half Marathon: Cheers from hundreds of voices fill the air, smiles of encouragement grace diverse faces, and opportunity is demonstrated on every corner. The course begins in Central Park and passes by evidence of what is possible—down broad avenues flanked by the rewards of prosperity, through the excitement of Times Square, and into revitalized neighborhoods along the Hudson River. The runners race past the World Trade Center site and Battery Park. They finish on Wall Street. With each step, one runner offers a praise of thanks. With each new view, she feels courage that God is as present now as ever. With each breath, she hopes that one day all people will know the Prince of Peace and His peace that passes all understanding.
Over the weekend of March 13th-15th, Lisa Duscio, Team Inheritance of Hope Coordinator and Legacy Retreat® volunteer, completed a marathon spanning two continents: the Jerusalem Half Marathon and the New York City Half Marathon. The routes and experiences may have seemed divergent, but her goal and heart were of one mind.
Kira Mann joined the Inheritance of Hope team as Development Director on July 1. She brings many personal and professional strengths to the service of young families facing the loss of a parent. Beyond her impressive resume, here are 6 things you need to know about Kira.
It’s funny how this life works. Every once in a while, I get thrown an opportunity I’m not sure I deserve. Every once in a while, I receive a ridiculous opportunity to meet people who touch my life forever. I don’t claim to “get” this, but I am ever so thankful. And so was the Inheritance of Hope Legacy Retreat® weekend.
On May 22nd, I embarked on my first IoH retreat. To be honest, I was a bit freaked out. I was asked to be a counselor. Yeah, like the kind that, on her best day, may offer WISDOM to people. I was asked to help guide a group of 8 couples, each of whom was facing a life-threatening illness… each of whom had absolutely been through the medical, relationship, and spiritual ringers… each of whom had at least one young child, just a couple rooms down the hall.
Kim Loving was first introduced to Inheritance of Hope (IoH) through a letter from a volunteer. Kim and Natalie Lindell lived in the same neighborhood in Jacksonville, Florida. Natalie had volunteered on several Legacy Retreats® and had heard about Kim, a young mother who was battling breast cancer for the second time. Natalie dropped off a note about the organization and its retreats at Kim’s house.
How did you learn about Inheritance of Hope (IoH)?
My brother, Michael, had discovered IoH while searching for a charity to run for in a marathon. IoH instantly found a place in his heart, and he has since served on several Legacy Retreats®.
What made you decide to volunteer?
When my brother began to tell me about IoH, I felt a strong connection as we had lost our father, Allen Davis, when we were teenagers. As Michael went on to serve on several retreats and my mother, Cheryl, got involved, the connection was too strong to ignore. Living a couple hours away put to rest all the excuses of being too busy, and it was time to dive in head-first.
Inheritance of Hope has been blessed by many incredibly passionate and dedicated volunteers. In fact, Inheritance of Hope’s mission of inspiring hope in young families facing the loss of a parent cannot be realized without them! Our “Volunteer Spotlight” series is a way to celebrate these most selfless members of our Inheritance of Hope family. The Padgett sisters, Gabriella and Meredith, are great examples, serving at 5 Legacy Retreats® each.
How did you become involved with Inheritance of Hope (IoH)?
Deric Milligan is our uncle so we have always known about Inheritance of Hope and have watched it grow. Before the May 2012 Legacy Retreat®
Inheritance of Hope has partnered with Dalzell Coaching. While the partnership will be an incredible asset to our Team IOH athletes, there’s more to the story. Meet Derek Dalzell…
Growing up as a child without a parent is without a doubt the hardest thing that I’ve encountered in my short life. At the age of 10, I lost my father, who was my best friend. I went through most of my childhood feeling like
Sometimes there are television shows that teach us something meaningful about life & offer nuggets of truth that we can tuck away. Downton Abbey is one of those for me. [Spoiler Alert for anyone who has not watched the Season 4 Premier as there will be scenes I talk about specifically.]
One of the primary characters named Mary (pictured left above) is six months widowed. On the day she gave birth to her first born son, her husband Matthew died in a car accident. About a year ago, Branson (pictured right above) lost his wife Sybil, Mary's sister, during the birth of their daughter. Grief & loss is a common theme in this first 2 hour episode of Downton & the paradox of joy in the midst of suffering
Almost 370 participants, over 100 volunteers, HUGE community support and God's smile ... the Inheritance of Hope 2013 Legacy Run 15K, 5K and Kids' 1/2 Mile Fun Run took place on April 27, 2013. Gathering at Brevard College, Brevard, NC, for festivities and the start and finish - it was a great time for all!
I have a son who just turned 4 years old, a 20 month old son, & a 6 week old daughter. My maternity leave just ended so I'm jumping back into the "real world" a bit this week. My to-do list is growing & growing. My responsibilities seem to have tripled in this new exciting, yet daunting season for our family. in short, I feel out of control in many ways.
My natural tendency when my hands feel full is to also feel overwhelmed & to want control of all aspects of my life. Ironically I want the most control, when I have the least. Do you ever feel that way in your life?
After taking some time to process the tragic shooting at the elementary school in New Town, CT & speaking to some some IOH families over the holidays who recently lost a parent, it makes logical sense to cling to those we love even more. Yet, I'm still reminded of the idea of having "Open Hands", even in such a time as this. Again I ask the question, how do you savor those around you without holding too tightly?
Last week the amazing tree in Rockefeller Center was lit for all to see, decorated with 30,000 lights and a Swarovsky crystal star on top. Beautiful! The sight of a lit tree at Christmastime evokes a response in just about all of us. I was intrigued when I came upon this explanation of the origin of the tradition . . .
45 Team IOH runners hit the Asheville, NC, streets Saturday morning, September 15th, taking part in the 2012 Asheville Citizen-Times 5K and Half Marathon. Families and individuals joined forces - in support of families served by Inheritance of Hope.
Fundraising can be scary ... and can be overwhelming for some of us. And these feelings can lead to putting off getting started. I know, because I've been there. But, I've learned that fundraising isn't so hard or scary, and can even be invigorating.
"If you run without any reason, you are just chasing the wind." - Wesley Korir, 2012 Boston Marathon winner