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Treasures in Jars of Clay - March 2014

How am I doing? Well, it’s kind of surreal to enter some anniversaries: diagnosis, surgery, and start of chemo. In February we were able to be in Florida on an amazing retreat for families who are dealing with terminal illnesses. Yes, the “T” word, not one I like to say and yet it is what we are dealing with. Do I feel normal? What is normal? Thankfully,

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Redeeming Valentine's Day - February 2014

The love of your life is gone.

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A Son-in-Law's Grief - January 2014

At approximately 5:15 p.m. on Friday, Nov. 1, my mother-in-law called me on my mobile phone as I was driving out of the parking garage at work in Midtown Atlanta. “Lanny has been in an accident” were the words that began a journey for our family that culminated in another phone call, at about 10 a.m. on Thanksgiving Day.

“He’s gone, he’s gone, Daddy’s gone,” my wife heartbreakingly wept into the phone.

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Ordinary Hope - December 2013

I love the Christmas season.  For several weeks, everything takes on a special quality.  Special foods and drinks appear.  Special music fills the air.  Parties and family gatherings celebrate special relationships.  Special traditions remind us of special memories.  Decorations and lights transform ordinary trees and buildings.  Perhaps you

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When 'Sorry' Isn't Enough - November 2013

Are there friends or family members whom you rarely hear apologize? Their apologies may be long overdue. Here is the problem: we have a natural tendency to gloss over what we have done wrong. Perhaps

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Going Home - September 2013

Our family is gradually recovering from the loss of our son Jonathan at age 43.  He died on October 12, 2011, after being diagnosed with stage 4, untreatable colon cancer.  It was hard to wrap our minds around those words when we first heard them.  It still is uncomfortable to re-live those days and weeks in our minds.

But we are surviving.  And despite the fact that

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Scanxiety - August 2013

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  - Philippians 4:5-6

I had scanxiety.  I didn't sleep much ... just thinking and thinking.  Looking at the clock at 1:45, 3:00, 4:00.  I could feel changes in my body.  For one, I didn't hurt in my breast or side anymore.  My back still hurt, but not in the same location, and I was pretty sure that it was more muscular pain ... or lack thereof.

I was really hoping that eighteen weeks of Taxol and seven infusions of

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Never Alone - July 2013

My mother once told me that she was grateful for the church, because I would have someone to turn to if anything ever happened to her. She wanted me to be safe, secure, and loved. She believed the church is to be a place that offers love and support for all those who enter.

Little did I know that would be the last conversation I would have with her outside of a hospital room.

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Great is Thy Faithfulness - June 2013

We often think of grief as a response to death, but grief comes from other losses too.  Families facing a young parent’s illness grieve the loss of health, loss of finances, loss of productivity, loss of relationships, loss of opportunities, loss of future plans, even the loss of hope.  Their grief and their illness make them feel isolated.  Renowned preacher Thomas Long describes such grief as “living in a land where nobody speaks your language.”

What is the language of grief?

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Support Group - May 2013

I have been volunteering for Inheritance of Hope for almost four years.  In those years of witnessing amazing moments, my eyes have been opened to the significance of support and encouragement.  I want to focus on the loving assistance that we volunteers strive to accomplish for these families living with a parent who has a life-threatening illness.

I do not take lightly

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